You Have No Credibility if You Don’t Walk the Talk!

I’m sure that you are exceptional at something. It could very well be more than one thing, but I will guarantee that there is at least one. On this topic, you are the expert that is a great resource for everyone to learn from. Be unselfish and share this gift with everyone who is willing to listen.

Outside of your area of expertise, you are probably average or below average at other aspects of your life. This might include schooling, work, parenting, etc… you get the point. If you know you aren’t exceeding at whatever you are doing, resist the temptation to volunteer and speak to these as if you are the expert. Sentences like, “This is what I’m doing” will make you look like a hypocrite if your audience is performing better than you currently are. If you get the feeling that someone is rolling their eyes at you, it is highly likely that others are as well. They are just hiding it better!

Don’t feel bad, you can’t be the best at everything! Focus all of your energy on what you are exceptional at and be the voice of experience and expertise. Have the humility to admit the areas that you struggle with and look for others that are strong in those areas to offer you guidance. You will see that others will have a much greater respect for you!

Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon 🙂

-Dan Sims

Are Things Really That Bad??

I couldn’t sleep last night. Nothing specific happened and there were no stressful situations keeping me up. Still I woke up at 3 am and couldn’t fall back to sleep. I could’ve been upset or angry about the situation. Hell, you could argue that I would’ve been perfectly entitled to. But I wasn’t….

You see, yesterday a homeless man came into my work. To set the context, it’s been bitter cold this winter in New Jersey. He just sat there and minded his own business the entire time. He ate a snack that he had brought in and just sat there. I said hi to the man and he responded in kind. I felt bad that someone would have to brave the cold without a home this time of year. Of course we all know that there are many people in this situation, but it hits much closer to home when you see it first hand.

That’s why I wasn’t angry about a lack of sleep. I asked myself, ‘How bad is it really?’. How blessed and I to have a great home with a great fiance and healthy kids. It’s not always easy, but we don’t have to worry about if we will get the necessities. So after that long winded explanation, you can see why I couldn’t bring myself to be angry.

Now it’s your turn to look in the mirror. Think about all of the things that you complain about on a day to day basis. Maybe it’s work, relationships, finances, or any other important issue stressing you out. But take a step back and take a deep breath. In the grand scheme of things, don’t you have so much more to be grateful for than angry about!

Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon 🙂

-Dan Sims

There’s Light at the End of the Tunnel

If you are reading this, I bet you have been through a whole lot of shit in your life.  That is unless you are under 18 years old and/or lying.   We all have, and most likely it’s not your fault.  Still, you carry these burdens around with you subconsciously.

Ironically, I have found that the best way to find out all of your faults, is to break up with someone.  They let you know all of the things that are wrong with you for free!  I was reminded of this when I recently spoke with a friend who is recovering from a break up.  He was telling me how selfish she was and how she had hurt him for a long time until they ultimately split up.  I was sad to see how much pain was in his eyes when he spoke to me about it.  Don’t allow other people to get in your head!

I bet there is some truth to the things they say about you.  Embrace this feedback as you will be able to look in the mirror later on and determine how to change for the better.  At the same time, remember that the facts are likely exaggerated while emotions are high.

That said, don’t forget the great qualities about yourself.  Those negative comments tell only a small part of who you are.  Don’t forget to remind you about the other facts.   Accept that the relationship ended, and it sucks.   Then focus on getting back on your feet.  You are a great person and deserve to bounce back and find happiness.  There are roughly 7.4 billion people on Earth.   No need to lose your self confidence because 1 person couldn’t see you value. 

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you soon 🙂

-Dan Sims 

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Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you soon 🙂
-Dan Sims

Be Careful Who you Keep In Your Inner Circle

Motivational speaking legend Jim Rohn says that you will find yourself in the same status as your 5 closest friends.  With that in mind, who do you keep in your inner circle?  Who do you spend most of your time with?  Are they supportive and building you up, or are they destructive and dragging you down?

I know that the decisions can be tough sometimes.  Maybe there is someone close to you that is a family member or old friend that has been there for you in the past.   It can be hard to look at the grey area and want to give them the benefit of the doubt.  But is that always the best thing?

In Dr. Phil McGraw’s book Life Code, he created a list of toxic people that need to be removed from your life.  He calls them BAITERS.  It stands for:

If a person falls in any of these categories, it is better to create separation or cut ties all together.   Again, if they fit into those categories, there is little chance you can change them.  You need to accept that they are who they are.   I know what you’re thinking, he might have cheated in his last relationship, but I’m different.   Or he might have been abusive in his last relationship, but I’m different.  Chances are that you likely are not all that different, and they will continue the same behavior pattern with you.  It’s a tough choice to make, but it is probably the most important.

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you soon 🙂

-Dan Sims

If It’s Important to Them, It’s Important to You!

Today I am heading to a Bridal Show with my fiance Kareen.  There are going to be vendors, giveaway’s and a whole lot more exciting stuff.  If I am lucky, I won’t miss when the DJ pumps up the Cha Cha slide!   Oh Boy, there isn’t a more exciting way that I could think of to spend my Saturday off(Can you sense the sarcasm?)!

Still, I will be there with a smile on my face and look for reasons to have a great time.  Why?  Well, because it matters so much to her.  I can’t imagine letting her down by not going, and I wouldn’t want to go in a bad mood and ruin her experience.

I believe that good relationships are built on one simple rule- If it’s important to them, it’s important to you!  It doesn’t matter if it is a partner, friend, or child.  If you want the other person to care about your interests, you have to pay it forward and take interest in them first.

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you soon 🙂

-Dan Sims