Don’t leave it in the hands of the judges!

There’s a saying in the UFC and probably across all combat sports, ‘Don’t leave it in the hands of the judges!’. This means that you should do everything in your power to end the fight yourself and not allow the fight to go the distance and let the judges decide the winner. Many times the judges announce the winner and the fans and participates are stunned in disbelief. But sadly, that’s the risk you take when you allow others to make the decision based on their perceptions.

Does this sound familiar to you? Are you doing everything in your power to keep your options open and find success and happiness in your life, or are you waiting on someone else’s decision? Are you waiting for your boss to decide if and when you get a promotion? Are you in a bad relationship and waiting for the other person to decide whether or not to continue? Are you the one that’s in control of your future?

A dream without a plan is just a wish – Katherine Patterson(recently taught to me by my fiance Kareen)

It’s up to you to decide your future. Decide what you are working towards and take small steps towards it every day. Have the courage to leave a bad relationship or work environment if it feels like a dead end that is making you miserable! There is no need to feel powerless. You are in control of your life and can make a tough decision that will drastically improve your future if you have the courage. Don’t leave it in the hands of the judges!

Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon ๐Ÿ™‚

-Dan Sims

Life’s a numbers game- and it usually takes only one to change everything.

Have you ever been discouraged because you can’t find a job, a partner, etc.? It’s really upsetting when you are banking on the perfect job that you apply for, only to find that they’ve selected another candidate. It’s easy to internalize it and feel bad about yourself. Now what do you do? My best advise is to just say, ‘F*@k it!’. Time to move on to the next thing.

Life is a numbers game and you only need one to say yes to change everything. Let’s say that you are in need of a job. To use round numbers, let’s say you send out 100 resumes and you get a job that you are really excited for. That makes you a real winner, right? But wait, isn’t that only a 1% success rate(100รท1)?

Exactly!! That’s the point. People get so upset at every missed opportunity but fail to realize that life rarely gives you a 1 to 1 return on your efforts. If you commit to pushing through rejection and not get down on your self, you can build an amazing life with just a 1% success rate. At the end of the day, you can’t have 100 jobs anyway. It only takes one!

Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon ๐Ÿ™‚

-Dan Sims

You Have No Credibility if You Don’t Walk the Talk!

I’m sure that you are exceptional at something. It could very well be more than one thing, but I will guarantee that there is at least one. On this topic, you are the expert that is a great resource for everyone to learn from. Be unselfish and share this gift with everyone who is willing to listen.

Outside of your area of expertise, you are probably average or below average at other aspects of your life. This might include schooling, work, parenting, etc… you get the point. If you know you aren’t exceeding at whatever you are doing, resist the temptation to volunteer and speak to these as if you are the expert. Sentences like, “This is what I’m doing” will make you look like a hypocrite if your audience is performing better than you currently are. If you get the feeling that someone is rolling their eyes at you, it is highly likely that others are as well. They are just hiding it better!

Don’t feel bad, you can’t be the best at everything! Focus all of your energy on what you are exceptional at and be the voice of experience and expertise. Have the humility to admit the areas that you struggle with and look for others that are strong in those areas to offer you guidance. You will see that others will have a much greater respect for you!

Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon ๐Ÿ™‚

-Dan Sims

Are Things Really That Bad??

I couldn’t sleep last night. Nothing specific happened and there were no stressful situations keeping me up. Still I woke up at 3 am and couldn’t fall back to sleep. I could’ve been upset or angry about the situation. Hell, you could argue that I would’ve been perfectly entitled to. But I wasn’t….

You see, yesterday a homeless man came into my work. To set the context, it’s been bitter cold this winter in New Jersey. He just sat there and minded his own business the entire time. He ate a snack that he had brought in and just sat there. I said hi to the man and he responded in kind. I felt bad that someone would have to brave the cold without a home this time of year. Of course we all know that there are many people in this situation, but it hits much closer to home when you see it first hand.

That’s why I wasn’t angry about a lack of sleep. I asked myself, ‘How bad is it really?’. How blessed and I to have a great home with a great fiance and healthy kids. It’s not always easy, but we don’t have to worry about if we will get the necessities. So after that long winded explanation, you can see why I couldn’t bring myself to be angry.

Now it’s your turn to look in the mirror. Think about all of the things that you complain about on a day to day basis. Maybe it’s work, relationships, finances, or any other important issue stressing you out. But take a step back and take a deep breath. In the grand scheme of things, don’t you have so much more to be grateful for than angry about!

Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon ๐Ÿ™‚

-Dan Sims

There’s Light at the End of the Tunnel

If you are reading this, I bet you have been through a whole lot of shit in your life.  That is unless you are under 18 years old and/or lying.   We all have, and most likely it’s not your fault.  Still, you carry these burdens around with you subconsciously.

Ironically, I have found that the best way to find out all of your faults, is to break up with someone.  They let you know all of the things that are wrong with you for free!  I was reminded of this when I recently spoke with a friend who is recovering from a break up.  He was telling me how selfish she was and how she had hurt him for a long time until they ultimately split up.  I was sad to see how much pain was in his eyes when he spoke to me about it.  Don’t allow other people to get in your head!

I bet there is some truth to the things they say about you.  Embrace this feedback as you will be able to look in the mirror later on and determine how to change for the better.  At the same time, remember that the facts are likely exaggerated while emotions are high.

That said, don’t forget the great qualities about yourself.  Those negative comments tell only a small part of who you are.  Don’t forget to remind you about the other facts.   Accept that the relationship ended, and it sucks.   Then focus on getting back on your feet.  You are a great person and deserve to bounce back and find happiness.  There are roughly 7.4 billion people on Earth.   No need to lose your self confidence because 1 person couldn’t see you value. 

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you soon ๐Ÿ™‚

-Dan Sims 

1,000 followers!

Thank you to everyone who has chosed the Persevere blog!!  I am honored that so many people enjoy reading my personal storys and lessons I share.   I am so grateful for all of you!

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you soon ๐Ÿ™‚
-Dan Sims