Don’t beat yourself up!

Here’s a thought that I had many years ago that I haven’t shared until now…

Success is like working out.

What is the point of weight training?   How do you build a muscle?  The most simple answer is that you work your muscle until failure over and over again.  Again you work yourself until you can’t do even one more rep, then you take time to recover, then come back even stronger next time.  

So why then are we so hard on ourselves about our failures.  With the right mindset, you can continue to bounce back and learn from your failures and take on the next challenge as a smarter, experienced, and humbler version of yourself.  Don’t waste time beating yourself up.  Acknowledge that you have failed and plan a different approach to be successful next time.  

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you tomorrow 🙂

-Dan Sims

Settling in…

It’s been a very busy week of settling in to the new house.  Between unpacking and organizing the house, I haven’t had time for much else.  Weight loss has not been my main priority.  Luckily, after about 2 weeks of neglect to my weight loss plan, I have only gained back 2 pounds.  So I’m still 20 pounds better than where I started.  I am ready to resume the program this week!

I will continue to report on my weight loss throughout my blog as it serves as a tangible measure of how much progress I am making.   Showing pictures to illustrate my progress is powerful and one day will tell the story of how far I have come.   However, I have grown so much personally in the past 3 months that can’t be measured in pounds, inches, etc.   My personal growth has been amazing, and those close to me can’t help but notice the changes. 

In the past, I wouldn’t have had the patience or organization to handle the move effectively.   I would get frustrated and throw some sort of counterproductive adult tantrum whenever I got overwhelmed.   Not this time!  I am proud of how well I was able to stay focused and put systems and organization in place to make life clean and easy.  I was able to laugh throughout the entire process and spend more quality time with the kids.  That progress goes way beyond a number on a scale.  

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you tomorrow 🙂

-Dan Sims

Moving Day!

The day has come and we are ready to move into the new house.  Moving is always emotional.  I am very excited for this next chapter in our lives and also for the progress we are making.  It’s still sad to leave the home that my children have grown up in.  I’m ready for a long day of moving and unpacking.   

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you tomorrow 🙂

-Dan Sims

Newly engaged!

Sometimes things have a funny way of working out!

Only a couple of months after my divorce I was introduced to an incredible woman.  Her name is Kareen.  When I met her, she was going through a divorce as well.   We spoke all night on the phone the first time we spoke and committed to meeting just a few days later.  It just felt right and things moved really fast.  We had our first kiss and I asked her to be my girlfriend all on the first date.  

It wasn’t all smooth sailing.  We had the worry of meeting each other’s children, the stress of 2 divorces, and learned to adapt to living together.   Luckily, I feel just as strong that she is the one for me as i felt in the beggining. 

This past Monday, I decided it was time to take the relationship to the next level.  We went to the new house to show the kids for the first time.  My daughter violet snuck away and locked herself in the bathroom.  I asked her to write ‘Will you Marry Me? on the bathroom mirror.   She was more creative and did an amazing job.  She added the touch of screaming that she saw a spider to make Kareen run to her. 

Kareen was confused when she got to the bathroom. Violet smiled and pointed to the mirror.   I played our song and when Kareen turned around, I dropped to my knee and asked her to marry me.  The rest, as they say, is history!  She is just as proud to be the future Mrs. Sims!!

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you tomorrow 🙂

-Dan Sims

Time to bounce back!

With all of the stress of work, moving, etc., I made the decision to hold off on the dieting for now. Unfortunately, I lack the self control for that to work.   This is what I had this morning:

3 breakfast sandwiches/ 2 tacos/ and a Chinese seseme chicken and rice.  

Needless to say, I felt sick all afternoon.  Time to get back on track ASAP!   Don’t allow bad decisions or mistakes along the way make you give up on your bigger goals!

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you tomorrow 🙂

-Dan Sims

A Day to Celebrate!

Let me quickly catch everyone up to speed.  I started this blog about ago to journal my progress.  After I caught some momentum in 2 weeks, my amazing girlfriend Kareen asked me to either send her daily messages or start a blog as she was inspired by my progress.

After a rough year, this is where I was 6 weeks ago:

-At the highest weight I have ever been (330 pounds)

-Bankrupt

-Facing foreclosure and eviction as a result of my failed marriage.

I have lost 25 pounds.  Mostly in the first 4 weeks but I am happy to have maintained it during the last 2 weeks with all of the stress and slip-ups along the way!

I was pretty open and honest about the house search as well.  Now with awful credit and a deadline to move out, we had to be aggressive in our approach.  We looked at many homes(some more desirable than others) and submitted applications to any decent homes we came across.  Most applications were denied almost as quickly as they were submitted.  We started to plan a new strategy and considered the possibility of downsizing to a smaller home or moving to a less desirable neighborhood.  Out of nowhere, we received a call from the realtor of the home that was our first choice.  We had forgot we even submitted an application for this house, as we thought we were sure to be denied and had our sights focused on other options that seemed like more of a possibility.  The realtor gave us the great news that we were approved by the owner and she will get the start to draft the lease agreement!

It is amazing what can happen when you stay focused on the right things and push through rejection.  Welcome to the new Sims family home!!

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you tomorrow 🙂

-Dan Sims

New House