We all make difficult decisions in life. Sometimes we make choices that we know aren’t the best for us. Sometimes it’s that one extra drink that we don’t need, or to eat that extra donut when your not hungry. Those are easy ones to forgive and move on from. But what about the decisions with much greater consequences? How do we know where to draw the line? I’ve always lived by on simple rule:
Can I still look myself in the mirror?
That’s it! I have made many decisions that have made my life more difficult than it had to be, but I always knew where to draw the line. This rule is so important when answering to your self but even more difficult when you need to answer to your children.
I thought that I was in the clear after going through a separation and divorce that happened roughly 18 months ago. She had moved on, I had moved on, and we agreed upon and arrangement with the kids. The dust had settled and everyone had accepted things as they were and we’re grateful for all that we still had. Or so I thought…
The holidays are sometimes a tough time for people but I had never seen it first hand in my home. Sadly, my 13 year old daughter broke down. She was so upset about how different the holidays are now and I could tell that she never fully coped with the whole situation. I sat there holding her for what seemed like 4 hours(closer to 1 hour). I continued to remind her that everyone still loved we all love her so much! I was sad to see her hurt, but I could only imagine how much harder it would’ve been to accept if my actions had lead to the divorce.
Remember that sometimes the consequences of your actions linger much longer than you realize. Whether it is doing something illegal or immoral, remember that you will have to answer for that action long after the dust had settled. Do the right thing and it will be easier to overcome the trials and tribulations without guilt or remorse.
Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon 🙂